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I Guess You’ll Be Needy

July 17, 2012

Dear Baby Boy,

We went and completed a registry at one of those big, theme park-esque baby superstores. Daddy held the scanner gun and I looked for items and told myself not to cry. We’d make it out of there alive.

We’ve ordered things online. I’ve read lots of baby books about bringing you home. The car seat came, and the furniture is on a truck to be delivered and we’re crossing off a list of never-ending stuff.

Apparently babies need stuff. Apparently you’re kind of needy.

And aside from all the stuff you need now, there’s a whole lot more stuff you’ll need in the future. Or so I’m told. I listened to a friend tell me how much I have to save each year for you for college. It’s somewhere in the ballpark of 200k. And I listened to another friend discuss the merits of private school education, all the opportunities there, and all the things you’d be exposed to. Another friend told me you need to be brought up in the city. Another told me to move to the suburbs. You’ve got lots of needs, and it’s my job to provide for them.

But here’s the deal, little one.

Mommy and daddy’s bank account doesn’t have enough digits for private school.

Mommy and daddy’s apartment doesn’t have room for excess.

Mommy and daddy don’t think you need your own monogrammed battery operated car to drive around in.

Mommy and daddy value other things besides all the “stuff.”

This may provide some complications for you as you grow up. You may not run in the fanciest of circles. You may be cheated of the tennis clubs and the polo shirts and the friend group that owns their own ski lodges. You might have car loans or hand-me-downs or bagged school lunches instead of being able to buy.

But mommy and daddy value things besides all the “stuff.”

We put our hands over you now, and we pray for the things we think you might need. We put our hands over you now, and we think about the life we want to give you, the life we hope you want, the life we want to try to model. We pray for your needs.

You need to be able to hear God’s voice speaking louder than your own.

You need to know how to be a good friend.

You need to know that generosity is not often monetary, but rather a gift of time and talent.

You need to know how to love books.

You need to know how to build things out of Legos.

You need to know you aren’t entitled.

You need to know how to put others before yourself.

You need to know that education is one of life’s greatest gifts, and it’s not to be taken for granted.

You need to know how to make music.

You need to know that you can share your heart with Jesus.

You need to know that everyone, no matter what, deserves to be loved, and to love in return.

You need to know how to listen before you speak.

You need to know how to make homemade banana pancakes.

You need to know joy.

You need to know how to ask for forgiveness.

You need to know that families mean love, that love means home, and that home is the front door you always walk through.

So we’ll get you the basics of all the stuff we’re told you need. I promise to provide you a place to sleep and call your own, a way to eat, and some books on your bookshelf. We’ll even have some cute clothes to dress you in, and diapers to wrap around your adorable little bottom.

We’ll give you what you need.

Everything else we can do without.

I love you to the moon,


One Comment leave one →
  1. July 18, 2012 12:26 am

    Beautiful list. Thank you. When is this little one due to arrive? What a blessed boy he is.

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